Marriage Monday - Expectations

Wonderful Marriage Monday idea from Come Have a Peace blog.

Philip had the past 4 days off from work (he always has Saturday and Sunday off. His unit had Friday and Monday off as well).I was looking forward to this weekend. I had plans to take the girls swimming and expected Philip to come happily along with us. I was very disappointed when Saturday morning rolled around. Philip and I were laying in bed. I told him that we were going to the pool. He was not thrilled with my announcement. Philip had plans of staying home and working on a evaluation form for one of his soldiers. I was so mad at Philip for not having the desire to spend time with us at the pool. I tried to convince him that the evaluation form could wait until Sunday or Monday. Didn't work, he was not going to go to the pool and that was that! I was angry and hurt.
Through out the years I have heard that it can be good to lower my our expectations, especially expectations of our spouse. So as I make plans for the girl's and I, I will not expect Philip to come along or participate. I have been let down too many times. I will still have fun with the girl's and plan fun things for us to do. If Philip does come along or participate then that will be a wonderful surprise and a big bonus!!